Let's have a training agreement. No more swearing when you get tapped in sparring. It's purely emotional and serves no purpose. When you emotionally react to getting tapped, like muttering an expletive under your breath, you're tapping twice. The first is to avoid a catastrophic physical injury, which is good; but the second is an emotional tap that is entirely unnecessary and only makes you feel like you did something wrong. You didn't.
Everyone--and I mean everyone--gets tapped. That's why it exists. You might be the one using it in that moment, but you certainly didn't invent it. The tap has a proud history. When you get submitted and tap, it means you learned something and you are 1% better than you were before the tap. I truly believe that. (Though the math may vary.)
I want you to remember two things when you get tapped and feel like having an emotional reaction. The first is that the emotional tap is being driven by Fear Of Exposure, or FOE, and is embarrassment based; it tends to stem from self-recriminations and an "I should have known better" mentality. Neither are helpful in training. Ignore FOE--it will hold you back.
The second thing I want you to remember is FIMO. FIMO is crudely elegant and it will become your new child-friendly swearword in those moments, but with a more subtle purpose. FIMO is "Fuck It, Move On" and they are words to live by. You can say FIMO in mixed company and not offend anyone, nor will you be giving into an emotional reaction with no cap to it--you can say "shit" after you get tapped out, but where does that take you? Nowhere. Say FIMO, but mean the second part; you'll find it's much easier to start learning from the situation than to emotionally tap and not have a "move on" strategy.
FOE and FIMO for better training. Good luck and see you on the mats.